What is Pegging?

Double Dildo SHAREVIBE on bodies

“Pegging” is the term for when a woman uses a strap-on to have anal sex with a male partner. It was coined by a reader of the Savage Love column in a contest to find the best word for the increasingly popular sex act—and the word, like pegging itself, has only become more popular! 

HOW DO I DO IT?

So glad you asked! If you’re new to anal play, here are a few must-knows: 

  • Warm up! Do it! Take all the time you need! Your butt holds a lot of tension, so give yourself time to relax and get turned on before you try penetration 
  • Use water-based lube. Use more than you think you need. Reapply liberally. 
  • Go at the receiver’s pace 
  • Consider starting smalllike with a finger or a BOOTIE SMALL plug. You don’t have to have porno sex on your first go-round (or ever!).  

Re: positions, a lot of guys like to start on their backs, which makes it easy to relax your muscles. Another popular position is doggie style, so that the receiver can back onto the dildo, setting the pace of penetration.

How to use Double Dildo SHARE

WHICH DILDO SHOULD I USE?

Our rule of thumb is that the wearer picks the harness and the receiver picks the dildo. Let’s take a look at your options!

CLASSIC DILDOS

Try a longer toy, even if you’re not planning on deep penetration. Extra length gives the wearer more control over the toy and makes it easier to try different positions.  

We love the LIMBA FLEX M for pegging, since you can bend it into any angle you want, opening up a whole world of positions and making prostate play a cinch. Plus, the slim, tapered tip makes it super comfy to insert.  

The MAGNUM is a fave for folks who want a smooth shaft with a little more girth. It also looks super sexy in a harness.  

Then, there’s the BOUNCER, a thicker dildo with three weighted balls inside that rumble and roll with every thrust, for a sensation that’s deeper and more organic than vibration.

Dildo BOUNCER for strap-on sex

STRAPLESS STRAP-ONS

The biggest complaint we hear about strap-on play is that the wearer wants to feel more. Many say that the stimulation they get from pegging is more mental than physical.  

Enter the wearable double dildo. With one of these freakin’ miracles of invention, both partners feel every thrust. The smaller bulb gets inserted vaginally, where it sits against the G-spot. The upward slope between the bulb and the dildo rests against the clit. Voila! Something for both of you.  

The SHARE is our classic design: comfortable, flexible, and great for any position. (It’s also amaaaaaazing for strap-on hand-jobs and BJs.) 

Pegging with SHAREVIBE

The SHAREVIBE, of course, comes with a removable 5-setting bullet vibrator—our rechargeable, waterproof MASSAGE BULLETfor vibes you both can feel. It has an extra slope for clit stimulation and an intense upward curve that’s perfect for hitting the prostate during missionary or man-on-top.  

The million dollar question: can you wear one without a harness? The short answer is yes. The longer answer is that every body is different and many people find that wearing a harness makes everything easier, opens up the option for more athletic sex, and lets them focus on the sex rather than the toy.  

HAPPY PEGGING!