How to Give a Great Blowjob

Couple having fun in bed

“How do I give a good blowjob?” It’s one of the top five questions we hear as sex educators, and it’s one we’re always happy to answer. After all, while “good” can feel different to everyone, it’s never a bad idea to try some new techniques!

STROKE THEIR PENIS OVER THEIR UNDERWEAR...

...with your hands or the LAYA II. Why not get right down to business? Because teasing is fun! You’ll build your partner’s arousal, and you both get the pleasure of anticipation. Plus, you can do this while you’re cuddling and kissing! The LAYA II is an effortless addition, since it fits perfectly in your hand, with the curve laying over the shaft. Try starting on the lowest setting.

Couple playing with LAYA II Vibrator

ONCE YOU’VE STARTED, DON’T STOP USING YOUR HANDS...

... or a MANTA! A great BJ isn’t all about what you do with your lips and tongue. Using your hands lets you give your partner more sensations at once. After all, your mouth can’t be everywhere! The MANTA vibrating stroker lets you add purring vibration to the oral sex. Try holding it at the base of the penis for a deep throat sensation.

Giving a blowjob with MANTA

DON’T FORGET THE BALLS.

If your partner likes having their balls touched, then that’s a whole goldmine of nerve endings for you to play with. See whether your partner likes light stroking, licking, sucking, and/or super gentle massage.

Pro tip: Use the LAYA II to cup the balls or rest it against the sensitive frenulum while you kiss or lick the balls.

…OR THE PERINEUM.

If you’re not already acquainted, the perineum is the nerve-rich area between the balls and the anus. Kissing or licking there can be awesome, or you can use your hands for supplementary pleasure. Try light tickling, stroking, or firmer massageyou can even stimulate the prostate externally! For an effortless assist, try the DUKE plug

Pro tip: Make some noise! Let your partner know that you’re enjoying yourself! Need some inspiration? Try using a VOLTA vibe on yourself while you go down.