What? In the butt? Does the thought of anal sex make your butt snap shut faster than a trap? Don't worry: even nervous beginners can learn to follow their butt bliss.
WHY WOULD I WANT TO?
Because it feels awesome! Your butthole has one of the highest concentrations of nerves in your whole body, and playing with it can give you an amazing rush of sensation. If you have a prostate, that’s an even bigger bonus for ass play!
WILL ANAL SEX HURT?
Not if you take your time warming up and use plenty of lube. Also, get turned on first. Arousal relaxes your whole body, including your ass. And use common sense: start with a finger, not a fist.
BUT ISN’T IT... KINDA GROSS IN THERE?
Your rectum is a hallway, not a storage facility. There won’t be anything in there unless you’re about to use the bathroom. If you’re super worried about cleanliness, you can always use an anal douche to rinse yourself out before you start. For a step-by-step guide to douching, read Bobby Box’s “Your Gay Best Friend’s Guide to Anal Pleasure."
WHEW! OKAY, WHAT DO I NEED TO KNOW TO GET STARTED?
First, use more lube than you think you need. Second, make sure that any sex toy that you’re using has a flared base at the bottom—a stopping point. Our beginner-friendly BOOTIE plug has a comfy, slim base, or you could wrap NŌS around any insertable toy to act as a stopper. Third, only do what feels good. Discomfort will make you tense up, which will make you more uncomfortable. Plus, why have bad sex when you could have great sex?